She needs your advice…..

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imagesCAKIY68RDivine Chioma is a fantastic friend of mine. I got to know her not too long ago and after I read her blog, I knew that she’s got a lot to offer this generation, especially womanhood.

She was in lagos a while back and we were supposed to meet on a particular day but she couldn’t make it. Why? I asked……guess her response, “I was interviewing Gov. Fashola”. “Yeah right, Abeg abeg”, I just waved it off but I later found out it was true and I was disappointed with myself. Whether you believe it or not, there are young people achieving great results everywhere. You just haven’t heard of them and believe me, its only a matter of time.

Recently she had an encounter with a young lady which I found so touching and I decided to share because I believe we, especially ladies, can learn from the lady’s experience and I also believe Divine did a good job in terms of her advice……. Read on…..rape

Hello dears, someone I counseled confided in me, I got her permission to share. Please read, criticize, comment, learn, watch and pray, and if you or someone that you know has gone through this, please get in touch.

I am done with church! This is not because I am an unbeliever – I have a rather personal relationship with God, I have not backslidded either. I am just fed up of the lies and pretense that is very heavy in the church!

You know I am in the choir right? Well, I don’t care anymore, if I go to any church again, I might go to hell. Ehm.. Sister divine, no need to advise me, my mind is made up. Na me sing pass but na me sin pass too. (At this point I had to try to calm her down because she was shaking real bad. She paused and bowed her head, when she looked up again, tears were streaming down her eyes, I held her close to me and she continued talking). “Shebi you know that I combine work and school so that I can pay my fees? Last semester, my boss paid late and the closing date for payment of fees was approaching, there was nobody to help and so I went to meet my pastor. He said he would help me. He gave me N30,000 and I thanked him and wanted to leave, he then said its because he liked me. I thanked him again, he now said that I should give him a hug. I hesitated and said I don’t hug guys but he asked if I didn’t trust him and he looked pained so I gave in to the pressure and hugged him. After 3 minutes, he still did not release me. I tried to extricate myself from his grip but he refused to release me, he put his fingers into my ears saying there were some evil spirits in my body that were responsible for my poverty, I felt myself getting weak and when he touched my breast, I couldn’t fight him off. We had sex and I cried throughout the time it lasted.untitled

I couldn’t tell anyone because I didn’t know if they would believe me and besides I needed the thirty thousand naira. I stopped going to church for a while and people began to ask questions since I was the chorus leader. Later, he called me and asked me to return the N30,000 I stole from him. I was shocked and asked him how, he now said that I would know when the police came. I begged him and he said that I should come and meet him the next day, I didn’t have N30,000 to pay back so I went, from then till now, I’ve been sleeping with my pastor and now I’m fed up, no church! Not ever again.untitled.pnhjvhjvv

The question that kept ringing in my heart was ‘why do supposed men of god (notice I used a small ‘g’ because my own God hates sin with passion) assault God’s treasures?’ Now, there are many wonderful men of God out there who are walking in the will of God but these days, they are so few! What we mostly have now are the wolves and hounds who are wrecking havoc on God’s sheep and we have to fight this trend. I, Divine, I rebel! (Ever heard of holy rebels?). I have walked that road before and I do not intend to walk it again, not ever again! But humanity must wake up! Believers must wake up! Sister, look out for your sister, mother look out for your daughter because the wolves and hounds are on a rampage!

Now ladies abeg listen:
If you know you need assistance from your pastor, please go through his wife, if He isn’t married abeg my dear, go through the welfare board of your church, if your church has no welfare board, GO AND PRAY! If God doesn’t answer (which is zero out of one million) please let them kick you out of school! Its tough right? But trust me, school does not make you. How many degrees Oprah Winfrey get?

Never ever let any “man of god” perform ‘Private’ deliverance for you because whatever spirit he calls on to deliver you can decide to move- in the other direction! A man with the Holy Spirit would always be conscious enough to have other people- prayer warriors, ushers etc around to help with the deliverance, if its just the both of you, abeg no wait, run for your life!

If you are assaulted, don’t keep your mouth shut! Abeg talk! So that you save yourself the emotional trauma and loss of confidence, so that you spare yourself the victimization. Don’t report him to members o, all they’ll do is gossip! Report to his mentor, his senior pastor, His General Overseer, any senior colleague. They’ll call him to order. If they don’t, God will punish them.

Pastors are not completely spirit-beings, they are Men-Of-God i.e ordinary men whom God uses! Even Moses was subject to anger! Abeg, they can fall for your curvy body and great looks. So, next time you want to see any pastor, cover yourself properly! Don’t wear that short gown, mini skirt or tight fitted jeans and expect him to just look at you and say it is well. Even if he doesn’t assault you, can you read his mind? You could have caused the innocent man to sin!

And my Male Pastoral Counterparts, please:
Avoid being alone with a woman who isn’t your wife. If you are unmarried and you cannot help lusting, please do the right thing and get married, na wetin you dey wait? You be Paul?

If you are married and you still have a thing for other ladies, abeg report yourself with immediate alacrity to your senior in ministry, he go conduct special deliverance for you

Finally, WALK IN THE SPIRIT! If to say David dey battle ground, him for no see woman wey dey baff.

I have said my piece, #goodnight



I blogged about this to hear what most of you my readers have to say….

What’s your own advice to the lady? Do you have a similar experience to share?

Please leave your comments below and I’ll ensure that my friend Divine passes them across to her.

Thanks for stopping by guys and be sure to stay tuned for more.

Related article on my blog – What to do in case of RAPE

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15 thoughts on “She needs your advice…..

    Onyeka Udemezue said:
    October 19, 2013 at 1:11 pm

    Very pathetic indeed.

    jayne said:
    October 19, 2013 at 2:49 pm

    Well, she has go back to God nd accept His love. She can’t survive outside her creator. I understand what she is going through. I worked too while I ws schooling in orda to pay my fees. If God can do it fr me He will do it fr her too. If she can has to start petty business to make more money she shud. She has to stop seeing that Pastor. 1 Peter 1 vs 24-25( all men are like grass and all their glory is like flowers of the field: the grass withers and the flowers fall but the word of the Lord stands SURE) so dearie only God can help. It ws nt so easy then to school nd work but God ws faithful all the way. When I ws in school I ws working wher I ws been paid 9000 *smiles*( look am well no be 90k na 9k) nd I had bills up to times 10 of my salary to pay in school. God is faithful dear! Can’t forget the period when my boss overpaid me. I ws in my 3rd year nd urgently needed to pay fees nd oda tins befo exams. Did nt kno wher d money wud come frm buh God showed up. My boss overpaid me *sobs* I ws speechless I knew that ws God. I even do good girl tell the man say Sir yu overpay me oh! He said I know just keep it. God would see you through it. If I continue to share my testimonies eh! Night go come buh God is faithful. He is my faithful father and friend. Start up a biz, think of sometin yu can sell nd still keep working to earn more. God always Shows up fr His children. Love yu dearie*kiss kiss*

      Johnson Ifeanyi Madichie responded:
      October 19, 2013 at 2:56 pm

      Jayne am soooo touched. Many thanks for sharing. I’m sure she’ll be inspired.

    grace aroyewun said:
    October 19, 2013 at 3:03 pm

    Man of God ma yansh,tell evry1 even d members.he ddt only fall 4(curvy shape),he also lied.he is a demon.and u can’t b so desperate ma dear4 30k(wats dat)?.He isn’t a man of God,he is from d pit of hell and sud b sent back der!

    onyeka udemezue said:
    October 19, 2013 at 3:48 pm

    Divine dear. Your story story is very pathetic. I really feel for you . However, God is still in the business of healing(Spiritual,emotional,psychological,financial and even academic situations). Approach Him(God) and He alone will give you PEACE. As for the “man of god”, he will not go unpunished.

      Johnson Ifeanyi Madichie responded:
      October 19, 2013 at 4:03 pm

      Emmmm……..Onyi, I think u mixed things up a lil bit. Lollll. Divine is my friend who counselled the molested lady. She wasn’t the one who was molested.
      Nice words of encouragement Onyeka. Thanks. I’ll make sure she gets them.

    Pinkett.. said:
    October 19, 2013 at 5:23 pm

    Iv had a similar experience…fortunately 4 me..he didn’t go any further…I was in shock till he stood up 4rm d bed…still avent regained 4rm d shock…buh am living…we av 2 go baq 2 God in sincerity….

      Johnson Ifeanyi Madichie responded:
      October 19, 2013 at 7:54 pm

      Pinkett dear thanks for sharing. At least she’ll know that others have been there and moved on. Many blessings dear.

    Dupsy said:
    October 19, 2013 at 5:38 pm

    My dear, your story is very pathetic and I strongly believe that you need to ask God for mercy and make up with your creator cos he didn’t ask the “man of god-abi NA demon sef” to take advantage of you and your situation.However, this demon must be exposed, you need to approach the elders/senior pastors @ your former church n confess to them(only God knows how many ushers,choirsters,Sunday school teachers and even other ministers’ wives he has slept with.Continue to pray and trust in your maker and he will sort you out.Cheers

    giddy said:
    October 19, 2013 at 7:50 pm

    Get counselling, talk to God about it, but forgive yourself and forgive him. u will hurt, shame will try to consume you, guilt will try to be friendly but u will rise above it all and u will heal. Gods love is greater than any sin and guess what He already gave up His only begotten son for you. It will take a lot to shake it off and get through it but don’t wallow in it. God loves u.

    giddy said:
    October 19, 2013 at 8:03 pm


    Gabriel M. said:
    October 19, 2013 at 10:00 pm

    Nice read. Addressing many issues people shy away from and provides good advice to prevent such vices from occuring. Every one (esp ladies) should read dis. Neva knw whn it cld come in handy. Feel sorry for her, best advice is focus of God’s word for He promised not to leave or forsake us. The arms of flesh will surely fail and temptation come to people all the time but God will never allow us to be tempted beyond our capacity. My advice for her is to try to forgive even though painful. With reads lik these such societal ills will be eradicated someday through the power of enligtment.

    kreativespaceblog said:
    October 20, 2013 at 3:10 am

    Read your post: i think one first problem is that people are expecting “too much” from men of God. There are some things that only God can do. God should be the focus here. He is the one people should be having the close relationship with. Its so unfortunate that some of them are taking advantage of the women. God help us all.

    Uzoma said:
    October 21, 2013 at 3:49 pm

    This is really sad but true, someone not so long ago though older and more accomplished confessed about an affair with a pastor too, but not on this blog and i remember correctly that Johnson here was not in support of the story going round, the thing is we are in the end times, and unbelievable things are happening. My advice to the lady is to go back to God and consecrate herself not necessarily through a church but then again she should worship somewhere else, cos the fellowship of brethren is important too..

    imperfectlyperfect92 said:
    November 7, 2013 at 7:20 pm

    Now this thawed at d strings on my heart.
    He turned her to sleeping with him evrytime cuz of 30k? And he is victimizing her now? Threatening her wit police? How wicked can pple be?
    Why o why will pple God placed 2care 4his flock turn around 2be their attackers?
    Well,even d bible says there will b many false prophets on d last day,let’s all take heed,trust no one,no man is perfect,only God is.
    She has to stop dis and refuse 2be intimidated! Record a conversation that can rope him in,take it to a good lawyer that will help u cuz dis inadvertly is rape!,let him knw dat he can’t go scotfree,than I suggest u get on ur knees and remember ur God.ask him to lead u out of dis situation,He sees all and is still right there beside u and for u.

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